There were something that haunt me this few days...Can we be friends with our ex?
What do you think? Few of you may say "of course why not" and the other few would say "no way"...
However, there are some circumstances should be taken into account before considering whether to accept or reject the friendship with your ex...
You have to face the fact that he/ she is meeting someone new. If you are rational enough, your ex might update you about the new partner. Jealousy will come into picture when you feel he/she is not the same as used to be...They might have change them self to fit into the new relationship..
This will also lead to unfaithfulness if you are attached to someone new.Things will turn up to be worst and unpleasant if you don't inform you new partner about this. Not everyone can take it in a positive way if you keep in touch with you ex.
The worst one could be, when you both can fix what when wrong and get back to the love cycle again. The nightmare might happen again...
I personally think that there should be zero contact with your ex because it will bring back those old feelings and hurts more...How about you?
9 years ago
9 comments:
19 March, 2009
Khejes : Loose, why suddenly such topic came to your mind? Ok, come to the topic. I will need to stress here that if you are to be friend with your ex, these are the things which will happen:
- Jealousy
- Reminds of past
- Guilty
- Stressed (the other party will watch at your every moments)
- Inferiority Complex
- Desperate
And the list will go on. If you ask me, i do rather have my own life & not bothered to think of my past.Life has to go on..!!~
19 March, 2009
Nithya:something went wrong...Inferiority Complex so much related to my past...:D
19 March, 2009
good topic... =) padicithu varen
19 March, 2009
i don have enough exprience to comment on akka's question, BUT i will comment according to my knowledge. :D
To friend back with the ex is depends on the reason why they broke of.
if for good wishes of both, or because of parents happines. Then there is no problem for them to be friend back. Even though the memories will be there, but they understand each other very much. they can help each other or atleast giving supportive words when there is a problem for them. (NOT BETWEEN THEM ) :P
but, if the ex left you after betray u means, PLS DO NOT GIVE A DAMN TO THOSE PEOPLE. They r not ur FRIENDs, BUT NIGHTMARES.
etho, enaku terinjathe sollithen.
TC ka..
:D:D
19 March, 2009
viji: vangeh vangeh
19 March, 2009
Hi Khejes,
Read your blog da..interesting ma..i think as on keeping your friendship with your ex differs from situation to situation. In my case i still do keep in touch wif my ex. Becoz even though we are not together we accept each other as what we are.. So it all depends on who your ex is. is he a nice guy?? Whose mistake was it to break off?? and stuff like that dear...On the other side of the coin, if my ex was a someone whose not a right person...I will of coz nvr keep in touch wif him sis..and when u keep in touch its gd to inform your current partner which i do and i even let him talk 2 my ex....Infact wouldnt call him my ex i would call him my best fren :)
This is my view :))
Btw really miss u and nithi alot da sis...Hugz
Regards
MinyAngel
20 March, 2009
Here i would like 2 give some opinion regarding this case.I personally think that, before we decide whether can be friend with our ex or not there is a important situation that we have to be prepared. The situation is whether we will accept or not if our partner want to establish the relationship with his/her ex as a friend. Most of the people believe that they can maintain their relation with their ex as a friend, but I'm sure 99% of them would not allow their partner to keep in touch with their ex. The key factor in this case that might effect all the people is "Jealousy". It will lead a person's thoughts about his/her partner to "Unfaithfulness". Then the relationship will be end into failure. Maybe its possible watch people in movies especially Americans to have good relationship with their ex, but in real life its not as easy as its seen. So better answer the question that sounds as' "We will accept or not if our partner want to establish the relationship with his/her ex as a friend" before think about can be friend with our ex!!!!
20 March, 2009
as long as both are humping each other
why not ?
win-win
20 March, 2009
Minyangel: Akka, many thanks for dropping by.
proud 2b indian:i appreciate your advise :D...n will think about ur ques too...
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